Sex?

[wownerd]

This always causes problems for me, and to be honest i used to be shy about answering this type of question because (people will laugh at me) but whatever here goes, --- for me isnt just about the --- / ----ing someone, Its better when you feel something for the person and have a connection etc, one night stands are pointless to me because i dont want --- just for the sex, and its always caused problems in relationships because i like to wait a few weeks to get to know the girl but they just see it as --- and end up ending it.

[mapache38 (deleted)]

i think just cause they havent had --- doesnt mean they dont have those urges.
im only 26 but i've been in many "phases" of my --- life. like when i was younger it was all about getting a new girl everyday or at least a new one a week. then when i was 22 i started to change and wanted a more in depth relationship and --- was still important but wanted friendship+ chemistry, companionship but i would still do the one night stands and ---- buddies.
Now its more like i rather wait till i meet a good girl i can have a good relationship with instead of whoring myself around.

[alfarin]

To me, it's just natural. Condemning a couple because they have --- outside of marriage is a bit... stupid, given that's in it's simplest form just a biological process for the continuation of the species.

[stranger86]

`Really, it's all about what you feel comfortable with. I'll admit, I do enjoy --- but I don't crave it or anything. For me, I'm pretty open to whatever happens. I guess you could say I believe in the lyrics of that one classic rock song, "Any love is good love." If she wants just a one night stand and if I find an attraction to her (not necessarily physically but personality), I'd be willing to do it, however NOTHING will ever beat a strong passionate relationship and I can only hope to have that someday but at the same time I'm not in any hurry.

I got on this site to meet people, possibly find a relationship but now I'm starting to think you can't just attack it saying "Hi people! I'm looking for love!" it'll come to you when you are ready. You can't control what happens in life, so just go with it, and if you get burned every now and then (and YOU WILL), cry your tears, try to learn from it, shrug it off, and then keep on ramblin' :)

[ravenzero]

`So many people put too much emotion into --- and yeah, that can make --- better for when you're having it, but is crushing to put all your emotion into --- with someone you care about and have that relationship fail. If you don't put all your heart and soul into one instance, then you'll realize that --- is just ---. You can either use it to make babies or take stress off or just feel good. The only time you should really not have --- is if you're just trying to fill a void in your life with ---. That is the reason that people become dependent on --- and treat it like a drug, but it can only do that if you let it. Also, most people's views on --- are derived from social outlook on the matter rather than a logical outlook. Now I don't mean this as a shot to anyone or to be offensive, just stating what I see.

But on an actual criticizing note, protection is a good idea true, but the way people say it just comes off as something you throw in at the end to make sure what you say passes inspection. Protection is out there and people can choose to use it or not is all that really need be said.

[tezo]

I've never really thought of --- as something very important to be honest. I have it when I want it and if I don't it doesn't really matter to me... It's odd considering the fact that it's all people my age seem to talk about, but I just think that --- isn't something that should have much thought wasted on.
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Though I do enjoy --- none the less

[trollneedsfood]

`I love sex, and I'm not shy about it! xD However, I can't stand when people treat it like it's nothing special. I'm fine with one night stands, but I want it to be a mutual thing and not with some random person you meet at a bar.

Speaking of bars, the only good bar in my area is closing in January... T_T

[redscores]

Sex is just a medium to communicate with your partner on a more raw level than speaking.

It is a important additional way to prove your love to someone.

So yeah, I can say: --- is not something "bad", it is a necessity to prove your love . From both sides.

[whofan92]

mapache38 wrote: i think just cause they havent had --- doesnt mean they dont have those urges.
im only 26 but i've been in many "phases" of my --- life. like when i was younger it was all about getting a new girl everyday or at least a new one a week. then when i was 22 i started to change and wanted a more in depth relationship and --- was still important but wanted friendship+ chemistry, companionship but i would still do the one night stands and f*ck buddies.
Now its more like i rather wait till i meet a good girl i can have a good relationship with instead of whoring myself around.


I agree completely, even though I am younger then you have had similar stages. I have come to the point that --- is great but it should be used to deepen a relationship not create on.

[whofan92]

`* have had sorry

[zeroblade4201]

In a relationship its not a BIG thing, but it is a decent big part, physical contact in a relationship is just as important as a mental connection with the person.

[madscience83]

Sex is and always will be THE biggest driving force in the world. People will play it off and say its not important to them unless its with someone special, but those people are lying to you. Im a 30yr old man with all kinds of urges. If I go too long without --- i physically react. I get pissed and get into a funk so to say. Humans are hard wired to engage in --- whether its for love or not. Now we have our preference for partners for sure. Im not gonna go out and intentionally screw a dumb chick or a girl thats too superficial but at the end of the day if those are the only ones left Im gonna screw the hell outta both of them.

peace&love&goodbud