What do you do when you're nervous?

[ataivaskathryn]

I like to walk and talk; get to know my date while enjoying the scenery, usually a park or beach. That's how my first date went actually. Moving around while we talk makes me feel better. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels awkward on the first date, what do you do when you're nervous?

[andriek]

it may not be beneficial but I will talk faster. But I will also grab something laying around and mess with it. Just having something in my hands that I can fiddle with in some way works

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[irrb (deleted)]

`Heh; I get nervous so bad I'll get the shakes.
Best to act swiftly and decisively. I find that if I can trick my brain into making the move before its been fully processed I tend to make much less of an as of myself.

[slimtheinventor]

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[dldeviant]

`I usually zone out and think about things that I never talk about, like quantum physics. Which doesn't really help when I'm trying to have a conversation with someone. I always get caught off guard and end up with my brain going way faster than my mouth can and fumbling my words.

[codeguru]

I think the taking a walk idea is good. That's how my best dates have worked out. Knowing exactly how you feel about things, and stating them flat out, or maybe in a humorous way is good too. I don't waffle on things at all, but I always leave most topics open for wiggle room. The best way to get closer to someone I think is to just have the guts to take risks. Admit a fear, a life goal, a deep desire. Find opportunities to touch her where it doesn't feel awkward. Capitalize on trust to go further in any certain direction. And definitely show the willingness to sacrifice from your enjoyment, time, or personal labor for her, and always act jovial about it. Never be a doormat, but don't constantly keep score. And I NEVER throw money at a girl, that gets you no where but taken advantage of. Money spent on dates is a given, but otherwise, if she's not attracted to your body or the emotional aspects you share with her, it's not worth the financial loss. You look like an idiot giving money away for S-- or for attention. Also, all these observations come from recent positive experience, not from a lifetime of success. If anything, I've had more failure than anyone I know in terms of a love life. But I never give up, and stupid annoying optimistic people all agree, that is the way to go ...